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Tiger Moms Eat Their Young: A Parenting Style to Avoid

by Winston Sieck updated September 14, 2021

costums symbolizing tiger mom parenting style

A common stereotype holds Chinese mothers to be strict authoritarians, mercilessly ruling over the children with iron fists.

The thought of adopting a parenting style that exerts such extreme control may be hard to think about for many European-American parents.

Yet, there is the nagging feeling that maybe the harsh reality is that severe parenting styles get results.

The idea has gained greater footing through Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, by Amy Chua. The book describes the Tiger Parenting style Chua used to raise her own kids, including such tidbits as the hours a day spent relentlessly drilling piano, no sleepovers, and heavy doses of shaming to exert control over the children.

It essentially codifies (Chau’s version of) the traditional Chinese parenting style, and has generated quite a bit of controversy in doing so.

Regardless of whether this parenting style wrenches your gut or sounds like it might make for a good plan B, there’s still the issue of what research says about how well it actually works.

Is it the path to greatness for your kids? Are you holding them back by being too soft?

A recent study on the tiger mom parenting style suggests not. The research was conducted by Su Yeong Kim of the University of Texas, and published in the Asian American Journal of Psychology.

Kim studied Asian-American families, and categorized them into four groups based on their parenting styles:

  • supportive,
  • tiger,
  • harsh, and
  • easy-going.

The supportive parenting style tends to be democratic, allowing for two-way communications, negotiation, and lots of support, love and affection. Giving process praise.

The harsh and tiger parenting styles tended to be highly authoritarian, using more coercion, punishment, shaming and related forms of psychological control.

Easy-going parents tend to be more permissive, letting the kids find their own way.

Kim found that the tiger parenting style did not fare so well.

The kids of tiger moms had lower grades, despite feeling more pressure to achieve. They were also more depressive, and felt alienated from their parents.

The supportive parenting style had the best results, including better grades and educational attainment, as well as parent-child relationship. The permissive approach fell in between.

If the Chinese moms are really superior, why do the tigers fare so poorly?

The other interesting result from Kim’s study was that few of the parents in her sample actually fell into the tiger and harsh categories. The majority instead had adopted the supportive parenting style.

So, they may well have a superior approach. It’s just not the one that Chua described.

Image Credit: epSos.de

References

Chua, A. (2011). Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. Penguin Books.

Kim, S. Y., Wang, Y., Orozco-Lapray, D., Shen, Y., & Murtuza, M. (2013). Does “tiger parenting” exist? Parenting profiles of Chinese Americans and adolescent developmental outcomes. Asian American Journal of Psychology, 4(1), 7-18.

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Filed Under: Culture & Communication, Learning Science Tagged With: Parenting Teens

About Winston Sieck

Dr. Winston Sieck is a cognitive psychologist working to advance the development of thinking skills. He is founder and president of Global Cognition, and director of Thinker Academy.

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  1. EducatedMoms says

    March 27, 2015 at 2:49 am

    Maybe the opposite of tiger parenting is permissive parenting, none of which is a good parenting style

  2. Olivia says

    June 22, 2016 at 8:27 am

    As always, the in-between approach works best. Kids need support in everything they do, regardless if it’s their grades or just a hobby. Be there for you kid, allow him to make some decisions, but remember they don’t always know what’s in their best interest.

    • Winston Sieck says

      June 22, 2016 at 11:22 am

      Nicely said, Olivia.

    • Mai Lynn says

      January 27, 2017 at 2:57 pm

      I grew up with one asian parent and I can tell you strict is an understatment but it comes from a place of love, as an adult I can appreciate what my mom did for us. Keeping your kids on the right path is a full time job for sure.

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